Principle 1: Take 100% Responsibility For Your Life

One would think that reading a single chapter a day would be easy but when you opt to do that reading at bedtime it can be very tempting to forgo that task and I succumbed to temptation twice.  Did I mention that it felt like one of the longer chapters?  However it is the foundation for every other Principle so it does make sense.  Not only did I manage to listen to the chapter once a day I often listened to it up to 3 times as I opted to keep replaying it each time I drove.  It got to the point where I was quoting certain lines along with the narrator.

Taking responsibility for one’s own life is something I’ve been striving for for a while now.  It’s not always easy and it does seem at times I grasp for someone or some circumstance to blame but it always comes back to me.  While it takes a while to embrace your personal responsibility it does take even longer for others to simply accept that one is late, the house isn’t cleaned, yard work not completed, reports not completed on time, taxes not ready, gifts not wrapped, etc. and there are no excuses needed.  I failed to achieve the goal one or both of us set for myself and any reason I give isn’t going to change the fact that something isn’t completed the way intended.  Perhaps as I dive further into The Success Principles I will discover how to disappoint myself with less frequency.

Something that I’ve put to use over the last 7 days is the formula: E + R = O,

Event + Response = Outcome

I’ve been contemplating a project for a while now and finally launched myself forward and once I did I was terrified.  I panicked, decided to withdraw within myself to where I felt safe and comfortable.  Now I did realize that this was exactly what I was doing and didn’t care, I wanted to feel safe.  This is something that I’m going to have to work on and maybe for the rest of my life.  After surviving multiple traumas for the first half of my life I still behave with the instinct of a toddler; if I stay small, hide, I’m safe and hopefully no harm will come to me.  Unfortunately that is not a quality for an entrepreneur to have when they want to grow a business.  I am fortunate to have someone in my life who understands, listens, then makes suggestions for ways to move forward more safely rather than accepting the desire to quit or attempting to push me beyond the feeling of safety.  So now I’m reflecting on the event (E), how I would do things differently if I’m to continue the project and how I want to respond (R) in the future so that the outcome (O) is different next time.  I’m pretty proud of myself for not quitting but adapting and overcoming nearly 50 years of behavior.

I am very much looking forward to the next Success Principle in the morning and intrigued to see what, if any, exercises will be recommended.  Whatever they are I am definitely ready to read and hear something new!

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